You can use both. I am not saying we should send messenger pigeons instead of using technology. But if you saw what a typical woman goes through on a dating app, then you would realize most men do not put in the time and patience to craft a thoughtful conversation that you do. Then women get defensive, and men (the good guys) have to walk on eggshells because the baddies have ruined it.

The right person will appreciate your conscientiousness. It's a trait society seems to be losing.