Yeah, Zackary, this is a confusing topic. Let’s take a more concrete example.

In new relationships, the woman is often the one who decides when to have sex. But there is something so exquisitely seductive about the man who slows the pace down and doesn’t put the onus on her to know when that time is right. That guy makes you feel like sex isn’t some prize that a woman hands out when he has proved his mettle. That guy scrambles our brains. It sounds like you are already there just by how you described connection.