Sigh...I feel your pain. I was once in a relationship where I chased him around the bedroom. But unlike you, my ego could not handle it and I left. It takes an emotionally mature person to navigate the tricky landscape between lust and love. I did the wrong thing and destroyed that relationship instead of understanding his lack of desire had nothing to do with me. That was a long time ago. But the lesson stayed with me.

Are you familiar with Esther Perel? She has many wise words on this subject.