MXM, Women are well aware that most men do not care about their success. I already wrote a piece covering this subject and there is an interesting research study in that article that supports my experiences.

https://medium.com/fearless-she-wrote/are-men-threatened-by-successful-women-6ee548482895

Here's another study that shows just how much men are emasculated by successful women.

https://www.asanet.org/sites/default/files/attach/journals/aug16asrfeature.pdf

What you are missing is that successful women don't care if a man is successful either. We have our own money. We don't need more. So yes, we too can choose a partner based on other factors - looks, personality, humor, etc.