It’s wonderful that you have surrounded yourself with a bubble of empathic men that are confident enough in their manhood to not feel emasculated by successful women but…your anecdotal evidence does not support reality.

Instead of editorializing, look at the research on whom men choose. I did a deep dive into several studies in this piece:

https://medium.com/heart-affairs/why-successful-men-choose-unsuccessful-relationships-f0695abfbd1d

Trust me. I don’t want to learn that thousands of men don’t choose a smart woman if they think she is smarter than him. I don’t want to learn how study after study shows how men are intimidated by ambitious women. And I certainly don’t want to learn that men will choose a woman with psychopathy who is hot over a woman who is not as attractive but has her shit together.

The research is painfully clear and your personal experience with a handful of enlightened men does not refute it.

So please, PLEASE stop blaming successful women for scaring off men.

Instead, you should be encouraging successful women to find men who are more like your inner circle - the men who you wrongly think are the norm.

Those men are out there. Focus on how to find them.