I have not cherry picked any data. I took the last two posts as examples, but I saw far worse shaming.

The problem with these vetting sites is they are not designed to spot red flags. (Women are not dumb. We know a red flag.) They are designed to spot yellow flags.

If you are confused about red flags, you should see a therapist, not 75k online strangers.

If you are confused about yellow flags, you should pick up that newfangled device called a phone and have a conversation.

These online groups cultivate lazy, fearful assumptions to avoid the tough job of communicating. I call them "idiot hoard validation." But thinking for yourself and throwing out the script is unseen today.