I get what you are saying, Michael. It's that zero sum game mentality that corrupts them. I am reading Heather McGhee's The Sum of Us now and she cites a study where they asked white men if they were discriminated against more than Blacks. Most said yes. That was eye-opening.

The sex worker you met - interesting story. I would have never guessed that clientele either. I would make the usual porn argument but I have no clue what type of porn Japanese men watch.