I am not on any dating apps, but I was in the past so I can empathize. It's Island of the Misfit toys. I know you don't want to hear this, but I meet good guys that have their shit together all the freakin time. I just talk to people when I am out with friends - parties, bars, dancing, meetups etc.

There's been a shift lately in dating. Dating apps were bleeding broken hearts and profits last quarter. There is a reason for that. No one wants to use them anymore.

And I do get the need to screen. But I prefer the phone or gathering intel from friends who know the person. Video bends the plot curve in a very un-sexy way. My cheap 2 cents dating advice.