I am not asking women to "find, build, and maintain relationships." You made quite a big leap there. I am asking women to ask more men out. Sorry, but some men (and women) can be pretty dense when it comes to knowing if someone likes them. So you can put yourself so far in his path that he is tripping over you, and many men won't pick up what you are throwing down. Coyness can be a valuable flirtation tool at the right moments. It also can be a hindrance, especially with shy men.