Hi Sherrie, Thanks for your question. So again, I have to stress (because some of the commenters don’t seem to be grasping this) the Eligible Bachelor Paradox is NOT my theory. I really don’t want to take credit for a theory that is not mine.

So it’s my understanding that the theory states that women who focus on their education and bettering their lives (read: becoming fabulous) miss the eligible bachelor boat. While the woman who focus on starting a family and less on their individual aspirations scoop up the best men early. (Because men want physical beauty more than career-driven women.)

These generalizations are very cynical. And I think that is why so many people are getting angered. I never said these generalizations apply to all men but somehow I am getting accused of that. Classic projection.

But we also should remember that many of those eligible bachelors end up divorced in their 40s. And they have learned by then to choose brains over beauty. If you have encountered any guy who has lost half his shit in a divorce, you will get it.

So if you want to find a man in his 30s…that’s a tricky age for most women. Divorce rates go up for men in their 40s. The 30 somethings are not yet on the market.

Anyway, I appreciate your thoughts even if you don’t agree with this theory. (I see some holes too.) I think it is important that we have these conversations. I certainly will be teaching my daughter to focus on her personal goals. Romance can always wait.