Hi Jim,

Your comment is interesting. (And thank you for expressing it without attacking single moms like some have done on this thread.)

I am going to put an amendment to my advice. If someone is telling you that their child will come first, you should believe them.

But you also should believe the woman who tells you that they love their child but are also looking for a balanced life of motherhood and partnered love. And you really should believe them if their actions support those words.

There are women (and men) who their entire identity is attached to their child. Not every person navigates life this way. And if I am to be totally blunt, these people usually have a low sex drive. (I am sure I will be attacked for saying that, but we all know it is true.)

When I was a teen, my parents used to have "date night" every Saturday. We were not allowed to disturb them unless we were bleeding out. I never felt unloved because my parents carved out this sacred space to express their love.

Parents need to have boundaries with their children. If they don't, they will grow up to be narcissistic little arses.