Hi Ahna, I kind of addressed this in another comment but I really need to make this point clear. It's not that you should look at someone's lack of interest as a sign they might come around later. Most likely, they won't. And sadly, I do think people (both men and women) are far simpler than we realize.

The problem I have with this advice is it focuses on "why didn't he choose me." And it makes the person feel that there is something defective in them.

There is not. People don't choose someone often because that person doesn't fit into the script that they got from childhoood.

That's why I want the new mantra to be - you are fabulous but not their familiar.