Finally, someone gets it. I have been trying to be nice about it but all my friends who never get asked on a second date share one quality - they are not dating with any intention. They are giant bores going on the same damn coffee date and then they come to me and ask, "why do men always ask you out on a second date but not me."

Because I figure out what someone's interest are before a date and suggest something that fits those interests. And yes, that takes work.

For example, I went on a first date in which the guy told me he actually liked flee markets. So we went to an estate sale on our first date and played "what's their story" rummaging though the person's stuff. We ended up finding a secret closet with all these crazy 70s fashion and had a blast figuring out what this women did for work.