Instead of staunching the natural flow of intimacy … be like water. — A few months ago, I went on a first date with someone that felt like I was surviving a Hunger Games reenactment. He fired one tough question at me after another. …

A new book blames liberal feminists for creating unrealistic relationship expectations. Let's discuss… — A friend recently regaled me with tales from a sex party she attended. I have never (yet) gone to a sex party, so I was infinitely curious. But then I made the mistake of asking the most uncool question ever. "Don't you ever get attached to the men you sleep…

The color of 1950s homemakers and subdued prisoners is now all grown up —

She burned more than just tennis whites — In the 2018 French Open, Serena Williams stepped onto the court in a black catsuit with a red sash extenuating her powerful torso. Around her neck, she wore a sparkly heart necklace —a girly contrast to her fierce one-piece. But Serena’s skintight suit was more than just a rebellious fashion…

10 reasons why online dating doesn't work for some people. — Autosarcophagy. We have a word for eating your limbs, but we don't have a word for eating your soul on a dating app. Too dramatic? Perhaps. But both involve a level of self-harm. Either way, I really don't like to eat my words (or my limbs), so I am making…

Bait your hook with the right attachment style. — Not all shiny objects attract all fish. Freshwater fish are lured with worms, leeches, or crickets. Bass are seduced by jigs, crankbaits, and jerk bait. But therein lies the problem with much dating advice — the bait never changes. And no other advice takes a more cookie-cutter approach than what…

It may kill some cats, but it keeps desire alive — In my Catholic school days, Sr. Carmelita used to beat into my impressionable head — "The couple that prays together stays together." Now that I have escaped religion's death grip, I realize two truisms I didn't see then. First, Sr. Carmelita meant well, but she probably shouldn’t have been doling…

Research finds misfits have a competitive advantage in the dating game. — A well-intentioned friend recently gave me some dating advice. She said I should turn down the volume on my personality. “You scare men away. Maybe hide some of your skeletons?” Btw, she wasn’t making a figurative reference. She thinks the skeleton I have propped up in my dining room is…

It's time to have a different conversation — From a young age, I was taught to control my sexual desires. The nuns taught me that sex before marriage was a mortal sin. My mother taught me that only "loose girls" slept with men before marriage. …